Friday, February 1, 2013

Looking Back

Now that I'm on the other side of adoption through foster care I've been looking back and many things are in  a sharper perspective.

I was recently talking to another foster mom, and she was struggling a little with how long a certain part of the process was taking.

 I told her that adoption, and foster care is a lot of "hurry up and wait."

 You really have very little control over the legal proceedings, cooperation of birth parents, motivation of case workers, and lots of other factors in the process.


I have concluded that really the only thing I have control over in foster parenting is me!

Not all that profound, but oh so true.

I can control how respectful I am of my foster children's birth parents--whether they deserve it or not.

I can control how well I work with my case worker--whether I agree with her decisions or not.

I can control my attitude toward the whole process--even when I feel frustrated with the "unfairness" of it all.

Don't get me wrong I think one of the keys to being a good foster parent is having someone who you can confide in, and vent some of your feelings to.

But doing your part in the whole process can make a big difference.

Just a few thoughts from my perspective in looking back.